How do you feel about Valentine's Day?

Oh, that's quite simple. I really dislike it.  The reasons for me disliking it however are more complicated.

First and foremost, it is an extremely damaging holiday, psychologically and emotionally. We are raised with such intense pressure on a social level to have someone on Valentine's day.. To get the most Valentine's Day cards etc.  We're taught on a subconscious level that it matters because of our peers.  I remember yearning for someone on Valentine's Day growing up... until finally I realized just how ridiculous it was that one day can make you so utterly miserable.

Let's see.  First, it's saying that love = flowers, candy, presents, jewelry, etc.  That you have to show your love on one specific day a year.

How wrong is that? Let's begin with the fact that Valentine's Day doesn't actually have deep emotional meaning for most people unless they let it.  By that I mean you weren't married on Valentine's Day. You didn't start dating on Valentine's day. You didn't meet on Valentine's Day.  Valentine's Day is nothing more than a weak symbol of your love for each other. See, don't get me wrong. Love if you're in a relationship is a good thing..

Showing that love is a very good thing. But you should show your love for each other every day.  Hell, my dad used to buy me presents on a whim to show he cared. Sure, that's a different kind of love, but the idea is the same.

Love is not in a day, or in a card, or in flowers. It's in you, or it's not.  Showing love can be something little, or something big.  To me, showing love is as simple as buying Jason a Dr. Pepper. He loves Dr. Pepper.. so I'll pick him up one on occasion (he's cutting back on caffeine as well as cigarettes) as a treat.

Love is complicated. If I find a decent "Snipe" I'll pick it up for him. For those of you who aren't poor smokers, a snipe is a part of a cigarette people leave behind. I only grab ones that are half a cigarette, and don't look nasty.  (He burns the filter to get germs off.  After all, he is inhaling arsenic..)


The second thing that really pisses me off about Valentine's day is how much pressure there is on you to be in a relationship. It's not a really special fucking day, honestly. Yes, that deserves a "fucking". It's really depressing to me to see my friends who are single get so upset about it one day a year. You get jealous of people in relationships because they have someone and you don't.. Biologically we tend to want a mate. This one specific day it is hammered into our head over... and over... and over again.

See, the thing is... You need to love yourself. You need to be able to be happy on your own before you can really do so with another person.  Not judging people, just trying to say... You ARE worthy of love. You have friends who love you, family who loves you (biologically or not).  The fact that you don't have a romantic love at the moment is not a shadow looming over your head, or it shouldn't be.

I was alone every year until I met Jason.  That's 21 years of being alone. No, I don't think it made me bitter... It was the observation of the holiday and people's reactions to it that did so.


So, to me, this day is nothing special. I'll respect other people's views of it, and say aloud that I care for my friends and family and Jason... But it isn't that special to me.